If you are about to date a Filipina or Pinay (that’s a slang term to mean a girl coming from the Philippines or with Filipino ethnicity) or if you are just planning to go on one, consider this unsolicited advice.
Here are tips from a Filipino, someone who shares the same ethnicity and culture with your possible dream date. I’m a fellow heterosexual male who grew up in the said tropical islands, and is willing to give you a few tips when dating a Filipina girl. Here goes:
1. Good grooming and hygiene. I emphasize that this is a must. The greatest turn-offs (not only for Filipinas but also for women of all cultures) are bad breath, body odor, untidy and smelly clothes, dirty fingernails, etc.
Remember that we, Filipinos, are from a hot tropical archipelago with water in abundance. We take a bath at least once a day. The daily average is about twice, with a shower or a wash up before we go to bed. We don’t like the smell of sweat. If you’re from a country near the equator, you’d know how we feel like.
So freshen up on your cologne if you really wanna impress a Filipina girl. If you’re a smoker (and even if she also is one), remember to chew a gum or a lime for a perfect smooch (but that what would come later in a date, a peck in the cheek is all you’re going to get when you arrive at your venue.
Filipinas also have a habit at looking at a guy’s fingernails (although they do it discreetly) so better trim them before you go out of your place.
Make a good impression, for as they say, the first ones really last.
2. Don’t discriminate against her religious views. The Philippines is a predominantly Catholic country (it’s around nine of out ten says the government, so chances are, you would be dating a Filipina (Pinay) Catholic).
A Pinay friend has once said to me: there are two bad topics to bring out when one is drinking. One is religion. The other is politics. But I guess, even if you’re both sober and not drunk, both topics are a definite no-no unless, of course, you have taken your relationship to a higher level. And still, don’t step beyond the bounds of a friendly discourse.
Closely related to this tip on your attitude her religion is the next one, which is her and her family. Although a Filipina may not strictly adhere to the Catholicism, she would find it derogatory if you nitpick on her faithbecause it is part of a tradition handed down to her by her parents or guardians, and that relationship is more sacred to her.
3. NEVER insult her family. To us Filipinos, family is important. Sometimes, it just maybe the most important thing in the world for us.
We come from a closely-knit but extensive family structure, where everyone is obligated to help a relative-in-need (even at times when they would tend to be dependent on other rather than in helping themselves).
You may think that our view on this is too feudal. But being in a Third World country (that has been tagged, for decades, as developing, into what, we may not know), our families has helped us get out of sticky situations for the longest time.
Better yet, enlist her family members as your allies for you to get closer to her Filipina heart!
4. Treat her as an equal.
Now of course, we live in a modern civilized where women are not considered as second-class citizens or as mere playthings by men, especially those pretty Filipina girls who could give a really satisfying relationship.
Remember we have two Filipinas as previous presidents. Although the first was most loved (Cory Aquino) and the last was most hated (Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo), which is another story, this mere fact proves that you should treat your Pinay date as an equal, if you do not, she will regard it as an insult and you’d probably miss out on your chances to have a pretty, funny, and sexy but innocent partner-in-life.
Lastly, these tips – though unsolicited – would help you in your date with a Pinay. You may not want to follow them, probably concluding that this advice is too cumbersome, tiring and complex.